10 Iconic Sex Scenes From ‘Sex and the City’
These are the most memorable sex scenes from ‘Sex and the City,’ from unhinged flings to genuinely hot hookups.
From the deeply unhinged to the actually hot, these are the onscreen encounters that live rent-free in our hearts and minds.
By Kayla KibbePublished: Jun 27, 2025 
Save ArticleKnown, of course, as “the sex swing episode,” this season 3 gem features Samantha bumping into her male counterpart—a man known throughout the city for his prolific sex life. Back at his place, he asks Samantha if she “swings,” revealing his very own in-home sex swing. But before they can get to it, he asks Samantha another important pre-sex question: “When were you last tested?” So for the sake of the swing, Samantha gets her very first STI exam, and the episode ends with a very acrobatic sex sesh in the swing—which looks to me like something that requires more core strength than I’m personally looking to deploy during sex, but they seem to be having a good time!
Honestly, shoutout to this episode for raising awareness re: the importance of regular STI screening and having open conversations about it with sexual partners, no matter how casual. And on a completely unrelated note, I also feel compelled to give this episode another shoutout for being the one where Miranda falls in love with a sandwich. A truly unhinged masterpiece.
2. Miranda Gets a Rim Job (and Doesn’t Return the Favor) (Season 4, Episode 6: “Baby, Talk Is Cheap”)
In what I believe is the show’s only instance of rim job representation, Miranda hooks up with a hot guy from her run club (SATC, eternally ahead of its time, knew run clubs were the new dating apps before dating apps existed) and is surprised when he licks her asshole during a sweaty post-run sex sesh. Recapping the event over lunch with the crew, Miranda remains confused but curious, Carrie is weirdly scandalized, Samantha is predictably here for it, and we find out Charlotte is secretly a big-time rim job queen—which, love that for her.
Aside from Charlotte, however, the consensus seems to be that while it’s fine to receive a little rimming, they’d never toss a man’s salad in return (one of the show’s many paradoxically prudish takes that haven’t aged particularly well). The next time Miranda hooks up with her marathon man, she offers him a post-sex massage, which he seems to interpret as an opportunity to get a rim job of his own. In an image that is permanently burned into my brain, he proceeds to not at all subtly raise his butt, wiggling it in Miranda’s face until she screams, “I don’t wanna do that!” He replies, “Well, why didn’t you just say you weren’t interested?” Which, fair point. But frankly, I think there were some pretty big communication failures involved in this one all around. The lesson is, if you want to lick someone’s ass (or want them to lick yours), you should always ask first! Use your words, friends!
3. Charlotte Gets Dirty-Talked At (Season 3, Episode 6: “Are We Sluts?”)
Charlotte is having tasteful missionary sex with her latest fling when, mid-orgasm, he yells, “You fucking bitch, you fucking whore,” before collapsing on top of her in a post-coital heap. Naturally, this disturbs Charlotte, who attempts to bring it up delicately on their next date, only to find that her otherwise seemingly perfect gentleman of a lover has no recollection of his outburst. She decides to move past it, but that night during sex, he breaks into the same mid-orgasm refrain. While there’s nothing wrong with a little consensual degradation during dirty talk, this is…not that.
4. Samantha and the Farmer (Season 4, Episode 9: “Sex and the Country”)
Carrie is forced to spend time with Aidan, her boyfriend who she obviously doesn’t like, at his country cabin upstate, which she likes even less. She makes Samantha go with her to share in her misery, I guess, and for some reason Samantha agrees. Naturally, Sam hates it too, but she finds a perfect way to pass the time: fucking the hot farmer next door. After some suggestive cow-milking foreplay that ends with Samantha getting a milk facial, the two go for a literal roll in the hay, featuring an enthusiastic (and loud) performance by Samantha on top.
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5. Charlotte Almost Has a Threesome (Season 1, Episode 8: “Three’s a Crowd”)
Threesomes do not fare well in this show, but that doesn’t stop these gals from trying! First up, surprisingly enough, is Charlotte. After the man she’s dating floats the idea of sex with a third, Charlotte has a steamy sex dream where she joins her man and another woman in bed. Unfortunately, the reality does not live up to her fantasy. At a party, Charlotte and her fling slip away to hook up in an upstairs bedroom, where a woman they’d made eyes at downstairs joins them. Unfortunately, Charlotte is swiftly nudged out of her own threesome and ends up leaving while her date—the one who wanted to have a threesome in the first place!—hooks up with this random woman alone.
6. Samantha Almost Has a Threesome (Season 2, Episode 16: “Was It Good for You?”)
In the show’s next attempt at a threeway, Samantha’s gay friends decide they’d like to have a threesome with a woman and think Samantha is the perfect one for the job. She enthusiastically accepts, but shortly after they all climb into bed together and the foreplay commences, her queer almost-lovers decide they just can’t go through with it. C’est la vie!
7. Samantha Is Extremely Rude to a Woman in a Threesome (Season 4, Episode 17: “A Vogue Idea”)
The next time Samantha attempts a threesome, it’s with her boss turned cheating boyfriend, Richard. For his birthday, he asks for a threesome with the hot, much younger waitress at one of their favorite restaurants, and Samantha agrees for one of the worst possible reasons you can agree to have a threesome: because she’s afraid Richard will cheat on her otherwise. Hate this for her! Anyway, Samantha organizes the threesome, which naturally turns into a tense situation where she and the waitress are basically fighting for Richard’s attention the entire time. Being a sleazeball, Richard naturally loves the ego boost of two naked women fighting over him in bed, but things take a turn when the guest star calls him “Daddy,” which he apparently finds so offensive he tells Samantha to, “get rid of her.” Samantha obliges by literally pushing this woman out of bed and onto the floor, all of which is actually so insane. Obviously, we’re meant to be rooting for Samantha in this situation, but she invited this poor woman to have a threesome with her boyfriend and then they both treated her terribly. Not cool!
8. Samantha’s First Night With Smith (Season 6, Episode 2: “Great Sexpectations”)
The first night Samantha bones the man she later renames Smith Jerod, she waits out a horde of other horny women at the restaurant where he waits tables for the prize of bringing him home. (I am a little concerned that this man was being sexually pursued so aggressively in his place of work, but I guess he was fine with it?) She wins and they enjoy a marathon sex sesh, featuring sex in multiple positions and on multiple surfaces!
9. Carrie Cheats With Big (Season 3, Episode 9: “Easy Come, Easy Go”)
Thanks to an infamous no-nudity clause in Sarah Jessica Parker’s contract, Carrie’s sex scenes tend to be pretty demure. While this one is no exception in terms of actual explicitness, I’d argue it’s one of the most emotionally intense sex scenes of the entire series. Carrie gets a room at a nearby hotel to avoid Aidan (her boyfriend who, once again, she obviously doesn’t like) and Big, desperate to get back together with her even though he’s married, follows her there. She attempts to get rid of him, only for him to follow her into the elevator, push her against the wall and make out with her. After initially protesting, Carrie gives in and whispers, “fuck me” in his ear. Cut to the two of them upstairs under the sheets, where they share a postcoital cigarette in a seductive manner. Listen, I’m not here to condone cheating or smoking, but I’m afraid this is the hottest sex scene in the show and it’s literally my job to call it like I see it.
10. Carrie Has Sex Like a Man (Season 1, Episode 1: Sex and the City)
Again, Carrie’s sex scenes are pretty tame, but I still have to give a shoutout to this season one encounter that set the tone for the whole series. Carrie decides to “have sex like a man,” by which she means casually, selfishly, and with no strings. She decides to try it out on an ex-boyfriend she meets up with for a midday hookup. He goes down on her and, rather than reciprocate, she just takes her orgasm and leaves—like a man! While I don’t know that being an intentionally selfish lover is the flex the show makes it out to be, this was peak feminism for the time!
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